Post of the week update

I got an email a few hours ago calling my attention to the fact that this is the second week that I haven’t re-blogged a “post of the week” – weird because I get very few emails about the blog and I really didn’t think folks were attentive to that feature.   In any case, I figured I should give the folks who read this blog the respect of a heads up when I change something.

I’ve decided to stop making it a weekly feature for a couple of reasons, the primary one had to do with the posts just dropping out of existence which then created holes in the content on my blog.  One site went private(nothing to do with the re-blog since that occurred well after the post and the person thanked me for it) and the other got rid of the post the day after I put it up.  In each case I had to go back and remove it.

This isn’t about punishing the world it’s more about the annoyance of having unpleasant holes in my content and in the feature itself.

I guess one answer may be to select posts from more established blogs, but I wanted the feature to be a way of helping folks who are starting out a way of gaining exposure while giving the folks who visit here something new and interesting to look at.

In the future I may start it up again but I’ll have to figure out a way to do it that doesn’t create more work for me. Believe me, I have enough on my plate.

That being said, if you have something that you feel would be a good fit for my blog, email me and I’ll have no issue with re-blogging it if I agree  –

Please DO NOT email with links to posts on how to make money on the internet.

Why ‘Bad’ Moms Still Should Parent Their Kids

Post of the week comes from Standing with the Kids. I’ve been reading Julia’s blog regularly since I discovered it back in July and she is the kind of voice that folks who make decisions about youth and families, on a policy and practice level, need to hear. I don’t always agree with her positions, but her arguments are thoughtful and well written. This post resonated with me because it speaks to the experiences I’ve had over the years in working with youth and families who have been involved with the “system”. In NJ we are getting better at keeping kids in the home by helping families improve capacity. There was a time when residential facilities were being used as a holding ground for kids who were removed from the home because of safety concerns within the family. Residential facilities are designed to treat kids with severe emotional and behavioral problems, and many of these kids simply did not meet this level of need – in the end these placements ended up hurting more than they helped. Although improvements have been made there is still a good deal of work that needs to be done in ensuring that youth are not further harmed by the systems created to protect them.

Posts for this feature are selected each week and posted on Friday, Saturday or Sunday. Posts selected are not necessarily featured the week they were originally posted.

Standing With the Kids

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In her own opinion, Dr. Brenda Harden has made serious mistakes with other people’s lives.

Thirty years ago Harden was a front-line social worker for Child Protective Services in New York City, frequently removing children from troubled, violent or drug-addled homes.  But now, as an Associate Professor at University of Maryland College Park, she develops remedies for what she now considers to be flat-out damage inflicted on vulnerable children.

Speaking at a recent conference, she says, “I’ve done a lot of bad service in my life.  I have moved children with clothes in black trash bags, and with all the metaphor that goes along with it, about being throw-aways.  I can’t tell you how many attached family relationships I’ve interrupted.  Sometimes there were good reasons.  But mostly we (social services) are…

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